thegoddess
PRE-SCHOOLER
i embrace the goddess within, and therefore i never go without
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Post by thegoddess on Feb 4, 2005 9:12:40 GMT -5
i think friendship is determined not by how you act when everything is going well, but how you treat someone when you absolutely CANNOT STAND THEM. that's who you are as a friend. if you walk out of their life, ignore them, turn your back on them, etc., then you're not a friend. if you snap on them a little bit then apologize for the foolishness, have an honest discussion about the problem and try to make things better, or at least be honest enough to say, "yo, i'm not feelin' you today," then that's friendship.
friendship is also determined by how you treat this person when they're not around. if how you talk about this person to someone else is not consistent with how you talk to that person, then you're not really being their friend.
a friendship is a relationship, plain and simple. people devalue friendships sometimes because they're not on the romantic or familial level (i.e., the term "just a friend"). like any relationship, true friendships take WORK. what i've learned about maintaining close and positive friendships is to always be honest when you have a problem with your friend, try not to take on your friend's problems as your own, don't throw their mistakes up in their face, and try not to form too many close bonds. the whole world is not meant to truly be friends with you.
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Post by MzCurvalicious on Feb 4, 2005 16:53:16 GMT -5
goddess, YAYMEN @ "and try not to form too many close bonds. the whole world is not meant to truly be friends with you." oh how i sooooooo try to tell people that everyone is not your friend just because you hang out at the club/bar, they are not your friend cause they hollar your name out in the streets, they are not your friend because they are to be considered a regular aquaintance. oh how much i preached this to my ex and my younger counterparts...
and i also consider, as you do, my friendships to be relationships... i find that a relationship is the bond that you form between another person...it doesnt mean, as you said, familial or romantic.
very well put goddess.
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ManicD513
PLAYGROUND BULLY
FRESHMAN
Lies, secrets, half way descent sex...all a part of life.
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Post by ManicD513 on Feb 4, 2005 18:30:07 GMT -5
LoL, I'm blessed because I actually do have a number of people who I'm friends with. Particularly some white cats. They be literally lookin for me at times. Like "Where's D? How long has it been?" Then we'll sit around and hate each other like old times. I think friends help you grow on a personal level. I know it wasn't until I got to High School I eliminated my so-called friends and stuck with the real ones. I experianced some real growth after that and this, I think, contributes to why MY friends and I are amongst the only few girls in our class(800 + students mind you) that are NOT pregnant or on our second child. (The No Kids club, don't you love it?) We were also the chics not being whores, like our school got such a nice reputation for.
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Post by MsLady on Feb 18, 2005 8:37:07 GMT -5
The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile nor the joy of companionship, it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him ans is willing to trust him. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
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thegoddess
PRE-SCHOOLER
i embrace the goddess within, and therefore i never go without
Posts: 75
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Post by thegoddess on Apr 25, 2005 18:15:10 GMT -5
friends are, like, all special and crap. seriously, where the hell are you people?!?!?!
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