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Jan 19, 2005 2:28:50 GMT -5
Post by famezwife on Jan 19, 2005 2:28:50 GMT -5
AAAAaaaaaWWWWww... foreal?? that is makes me feel all fuzzy..lol.. nah but you should PM some info to me... You never EVER know why people are brought into your life...it never hurts to find out... but yeah... send me some contact info and we could get together and kick it out here or there sometime... and fame will be out here this week or next... so maybe we could plan a lil kickin' it spot then... i'm movin' right now... so i may not get back to you right away... but i definitely will... i feel like.. we need to be around people with *like minds*... help keep you on track feel me? ;D I'm tryin' to convince fame to do some type of Valentine's Day get together for everybody on the board... don't know how that would work.. but if we figure somethin' out... we'll let everybody know ...
*blue*
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Jan 19, 2005 17:17:49 GMT -5
Post by dasweet1 on Jan 19, 2005 17:17:49 GMT -5
sex is what it is ....for procreation... sex in 05 is over rated and misunderstood. my opinion People have sex like they smoke a cigarette or chew gum.....wrecklessly and carelessley and wildly and in that fashion I am not intrested .. at all.. and it does not matter weather you admit it or not No one will admit to having careless sex... but happy to tell their girl or guy friend that they got orally fixed up.... Sex to me is special and I enjoy it when I do have it which is not that often for my own selfish reasons... any who... yes Fame I agree that sex needs to be re-evaluated.....re-born... .in "all" minds of americans... especially our youth. I love great sex though ;D... sex or shall I say love- making is a beautiful thing to me
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Feb 2, 2005 9:42:27 GMT -5
Post by thegoddess on Feb 2, 2005 9:42:27 GMT -5
i know that God is speaking to me right now, and i thank Him for it.
i've been celibate for over a year now. at the time i felt it was a *partially* spiritual decision, but i am learning that it's more spiritual than i thought. something was just *wrong,* yanno? i'd had a sexual experience that really made me think -- everything was just MOTIONS. it felt empty. i felt myself doing this act that is supposed to be about love, and i was pushing my spirit away from me as i did it. in other words, i completely DISCONNECTED myself. i realized that i ALWAYS did that during sex. there's something very *wrong* with that!
not long after that, i found out a close friend of mine was suffering incredibly from an std she got from the man who claimed to love her. but when he found out he set her vagina on fire, he turned his back on her. the signs were just building up and i know now that God was calling to me... to stop abusing myself. stop hurting myself. start giving my body and spirit the respect they deserve!
i cannot relate to some of you guys' comments about sex being an addiction. i was never addicted cuz i never enjoyed sex. i just did it because i thought it was what i was supposed to do. this is what media teaches us. you reach a certain age and, if you're NORMAL, you're having sex. that is so backwards!
the other thing i've learned is that abstinence really teaches you who people are. i've started speaking with some sistas on the subject and cautioning them about their sexual behavior. more than anything, i hate to see women giving sex to a man because they feel that's what they have to do to keep him, or his attention -- that's what i did. i told one sista "if you wanna find out who a man really is, don't fuck him." period. cuz a lot of guys run screaming in the opposite direction upon hearing the word "celibacy." and that's as it should be. demons should always run from righteousness!
anyway, thanks to everyone for sharing. i know i was lead to read these posts as a form of encouragement to keep doing what i'm doing.
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Feb 2, 2005 15:46:31 GMT -5
Post by FAME on Feb 2, 2005 15:46:31 GMT -5
spoken like a true intelligent black woman.
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Feb 2, 2005 19:04:32 GMT -5
Post by ManicD513 on Feb 2, 2005 19:04:32 GMT -5
I feel you goddess, having been thrown into the relm of non virgins myself, I caught myself wondering so long...why bother? Since I take celibacy seriously, I've been contemplating for a while if I really want to go ahead and pledge that. Healing begins inside and working outward, so I'm hoping God's gonna speak to me on it.
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Feb 2, 2005 21:59:48 GMT -5
Post by dasweet1 on Feb 2, 2005 21:59:48 GMT -5
I remember hearing many years ago Juanita Bynum's "No More Sheets" and she talked about how you die a spiritual death when you break up with someone if you shared your body with them and after you do this so many times over and over again a person eventually becomes SOUL-LESS because they have given a piece of their soul away to so many people over time that they dont have anything left. I was talking to a good friend of mine yesterday and he was telling me about how he had met some chic and that he would have hit it b/c he had her at hello (he is sooooooo vain) and the only reason why he didnt hit was because the girl's cousin wanted her to hook up with some other guy that was at the party so she (the cousin) could get next to his friend even though she had a man...........anyway my question to him was so you mean to tell me that you were going to have sex with her that night even though you knew NOTHING about her and his response was like did u not hear me i had her at hello, she was going so i was thinking you know u are soooooooooo nasty.........now this is someone i have been knowing for many years and i know that he has been with hundreds of women (and yes i did say hundreds.....u'd have to know him) but i dont see him as being a SOUL-LESS person for some reason because he is such a nice guy despite the fact that he has a basically a hoe.......i have often wanted to discuss how i disagree with his sexual behavior especially since i have grown to become a better person but i am not sure how to approach that conversation with him
CAN i GET A AMEN??? I'M WORTH TO MUCH.........to go out like that!!!!!!! ;D THAT IS WHAT I LIVE BY
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Feb 2, 2005 22:02:18 GMT -5
Post by dasweet1 on Feb 2, 2005 22:02:18 GMT -5
I take celibacy seriously
OUR YOUTH NEED TO ADHERE 2 THIS QUOTE
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Feb 2, 2005 22:36:51 GMT -5
Post by FAME on Feb 2, 2005 22:36:51 GMT -5
i say...lets cut off all the dicks(no homo...and except mine)...and superglue all the coochies closed(except um...you know who's)...!!!!!........
that could be an option right up there with c-sections and curcumsitions,and tube tieing!!
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Feb 3, 2005 1:19:45 GMT -5
Post by ManicD513 on Feb 3, 2005 1:19:45 GMT -5
Fame, no. How bout we teach people some restraint? aiight?
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Feb 3, 2005 14:02:49 GMT -5
Post by MzCurvalicious on Feb 3, 2005 14:02:49 GMT -5
yessssss restaint! @ manic...
a friend of mine and I were talking about the epidemic of HIV/AIDS... of course he is one that believes that HIV was concocted by the government as a form to keep black people dehumanized and whatnot... ok, im past that... HOW ABOUT THIS? no matter what you believe as far as the controversy goes with HIV/AIDS, and if you really do feel that it was a conspiracy of the currupted government, how bout we stop having senseless sex and put an end to it? that would be too much to ask... instead of dwelling on what the government could have possibly did, how bout we find ways to protect ourselves and the ones we love?
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ManicD513
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Feb 3, 2005 15:15:09 GMT -5
Post by ManicD513 on Feb 3, 2005 15:15:09 GMT -5
Very well put Ms. Curv. Why buy into the conspiracy if you believe it is one. That's like saying Crack is the Devil's daughter and then shootin up.
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Feb 3, 2005 15:41:48 GMT -5
Post by MzCurvalicious on Feb 3, 2005 15:41:48 GMT -5
exactly manic... smh these folkz i tell ya... sheesh topics like that get me so frustrated when talking about them to certain people that i just cant even voice my opinion precisely...thats how much it burns my muffinz
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thegoddess
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Feb 3, 2005 15:54:18 GMT -5
Post by thegoddess on Feb 3, 2005 15:54:18 GMT -5
curv!! *waves* gurl i just now recognized you (from BP, i'm So_Magnetic). haven't seen you for a while...
anyway, i agree with you and manic. the real key is to put things in perspective and use self-control. i've had a few guys ask me, in regards to my celibacy, "well, don't you get urges?" HELL YEAH! my body is one big WALKING URGE half the time. but i simply don't ACT on those urges. that's what separates adults from children, the ability to realize that just cuz we WANT something doesn't mean we NEED it! we've turned into too much of an instant gratification society, and have lost our sense of the VALUE of waiting.
but how do we explain to a generation of kids who don't even have to fastforward through commercials on a videotape that sometimes waiting for what you want is important?
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Feb 5, 2005 11:53:09 GMT -5
Post by MzCurvalicious on Feb 5, 2005 11:53:09 GMT -5
oooooomg hey mama!! -waves real hard in return- how you doin? yep its meeeeeeeee long time since i talked to your tail...
and i feel ya on being a big walking ball of "urges" lol smh...with all that is going on, those may be the very reasons that I'll just continue to attend sex toy parties and buy up all the supply....
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Feb 18, 2005 15:16:05 GMT -5
Post by thegoddess on Feb 18, 2005 15:16:05 GMT -5
@ms curv... the whole frickin' supply, sis?? lawd, i feel ya. the realities of our "casual sex" society are just too scary to ignore. so, it's time to stock up on good batteries and fun lubricants and make it a.. uhm... blockbuster night! lol!
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